It is bad when you are all used to the attention and then you are introduced to a bigger world and then you are just a face in the crowd. Studying in UP is like that. Brilliant and outstanding students in their own small worlds introduced to a bigger world where brilliance is just a common thing. Some of us can make it through the transition and move on but there are some who deny the fact and create a fantasy world where they still reign.
Pity is what I feel for this friend who after years in UP, in the industry and in life; is still not able to get through that delusion. For me it is a childish thing to dwell and rely on those small achievements and recognitions as measures of worth. I think that as we mature, so should our measures of fulfillment and success.If you compare your present self to your old self, don't you get disappointed that your goals never changed?
This friend of mine seems to have grown in their locality as the darling of the crowd. She is used to the attention, affection and admiration from the people around her. She is the bright student, she is the pretty girl, she is a catch.... the list may be endless of her admirable traits. But that is on a micro point of view for when she is with other people, I find nothing special. I am with keeping the confidence and faith that you are special but exceedingly doing so is disturbing.
She ended up going out with some guys, going steady with one but keeps the others around. I can not find a good explanation why she does that. She says that she was just being nice with the guys who were nice with her but would that justify that? She will cry at the infidelity and shortcomings of her partner yet she did not consider how she flirts whenever the guy is out of sight. Flirting is flirting no matter how good you coat it. Loyalty is fiction for her yet she desires every friend to always stand by her side.
She is also very commendable in brewing stories just to be able to control people. She will claim that she is sick, she is pregnant, she met an accident, she will claim that she is with this problem so as to solicit the sympathy. I have witnessed so many times how she twisted people with that style. I confronted her once and she told me I was just envious. That made me think hard. Am I? Envious of what? What does she have? Boys who are not serious with her, a weak connection with siblings, a weak foundation with friends and a directionless career.
In every place we find these organisms trapped in their small worlds. They are ever pretending to be something yet they are nothing. I think they are missing the essence of growing- to appreciate and discover a wider world. Why measure your life using the lives of others as a yardstick?
Pity is what I feel for this friend who after years in UP, in the industry and in life; is still not able to get through that delusion. For me it is a childish thing to dwell and rely on those small achievements and recognitions as measures of worth. I think that as we mature, so should our measures of fulfillment and success.If you compare your present self to your old self, don't you get disappointed that your goals never changed?
This friend of mine seems to have grown in their locality as the darling of the crowd. She is used to the attention, affection and admiration from the people around her. She is the bright student, she is the pretty girl, she is a catch.... the list may be endless of her admirable traits. But that is on a micro point of view for when she is with other people, I find nothing special. I am with keeping the confidence and faith that you are special but exceedingly doing so is disturbing.
She ended up going out with some guys, going steady with one but keeps the others around. I can not find a good explanation why she does that. She says that she was just being nice with the guys who were nice with her but would that justify that? She will cry at the infidelity and shortcomings of her partner yet she did not consider how she flirts whenever the guy is out of sight. Flirting is flirting no matter how good you coat it. Loyalty is fiction for her yet she desires every friend to always stand by her side.
She is also very commendable in brewing stories just to be able to control people. She will claim that she is sick, she is pregnant, she met an accident, she will claim that she is with this problem so as to solicit the sympathy. I have witnessed so many times how she twisted people with that style. I confronted her once and she told me I was just envious. That made me think hard. Am I? Envious of what? What does she have? Boys who are not serious with her, a weak connection with siblings, a weak foundation with friends and a directionless career.
In every place we find these organisms trapped in their small worlds. They are ever pretending to be something yet they are nothing. I think they are missing the essence of growing- to appreciate and discover a wider world. Why measure your life using the lives of others as a yardstick?
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